Jan
2012
You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink
This is a follow-up to my blog post, Do Not Create Resistant Donkeys! in which I introduced WEAC and STRONG sales tactics (mnemonics coined by me). WEAC tactics can turn your Prospect into a “donkey”, resistant to change, while STRONG tactics help unleash your Prospect’s inner racehorse, galloping across the sales finish line. This is a follow-up to a webinar we delivered.
In a series of blog posts, I explore how salespeople can employ STRONG tactics to put the Prospect in charge of change and feel empowered or strong. In my previous post, No judgment-allow all issues to be on the table, I focused on the N in STRONG sales tactics.
Next (and last!) stop is G:
- Support the change process by asking questions, listening and reflecting
- Trust the Prospect’s perspective on the pros/cons of change, and the risks/benefits of the solutions available
- Respect how difficult the change process can be
- Offer encouragement for change if the Prospect decides to take action
- No judgment—allow all issues to be on the table
- Guide, but do not drive the process—motivation for change needs to come from within your Prospect
You’ve heard the expression: “You can lead a horse (or donkey?!) to water, but you can’t make it drink.” Well, people, like horses, will only do what they have a mind to do. To make change happen, it’s critical your Prospect hear her or himself arguing for change by articulating the desire, reasons, and need for things to be different, as well as the belief it can be done (“I can do it! Yes, I can!”) A guiding approach will empower your Prospect to fully engage and be much less likely to provoke that dreaded “resistant donkey”!
How?
- Be curious. You can best guide if you are truly open to learning from your Prospect.
- Follow the 20/80 rule: talk 20% of the time and listen the other 80%.
- Engage in a dialogue, not a monologue.
- Be careful not to come across as manipulative. Your agenda needs to be about helping your Prospect make the best decision-not about closing the sale at all costs.
- Heed our marketing intern’s advice in her terrific post: base your sales “story” on your Prospect’s specific needs—not your “bells and whistles”—or risk “the sound of crickets on the other end of the phone.”
- Reflect back your Prospect’s own words whenever possible. Sales writer Art Sobczak explains: “If you ask about a difficulty or challenge they have, and then address that in your recommendation using their exact language, they won’t object to their own words.”
TIPS
- Do not be afraid to share your ideas with your Prospect. Your perspectives are a critical part of the conversation, as long as they are presented with respect and curiosity and after—NOT BEFORE—you have listened to your Prospect.
- Remember to listen for the “confidence” message too. If your Prospect has concerns about her or his or ability to make change happen, then take the time to offer encouragement. I address this issue in detail in my earlier blog in this series.
Listen to yourself: Who is arguing for change? You or your Prospect?
Peggy Kriss, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in Newton, Massachusetts and a consultant to VisibleGains. Stay tuned for more psychology informed blogs by Dr. Kriss.









